Everybody goes through it at least once in their life: they fall head-over-heels and find themselves dreaming of "together forever", only to discover that even forever has a time restraint. Yes, I am referring to the experience of being brokenhearted. If you've never endured this suffering, I can practically guarantee it will happen. I'm not trying to be pessimistic, angsty, or even emo, but at the risk of sounding like an After-School Special, it's a part of life, one of which is inevitable, and requires you to endure a lot more pain than any break-up song can possibly condense.

There were reasons we met, reasons for the good times and reasons for the bad times,
and most importantly a reason to end.
We have more to learn, more to experience and more loving to do in this lifetime.

Joy and sorrow are part of the human condition. We all will experience both. We all have had times were our spirits have soared to its highest mountains, and it would seem we could hardly contain our joy and our happiness. Yet, inevitably, times come when we experience pain that seems so acute that we may feel we cannot bear one more moment of it.

You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present. ~Jan Glidewell

What the Governments are doing to the people
is enough to Break your Heart

Relationships are either heaven or hell. Sometimes both. Making relationships last mystifies the most sincere seeker and the most casual. One out of every two marriages in America today ends in divorce, and many that do survive do so only in a state of armed truce...

Nothing is worse than someone breaking your heart. To need somebody so badly and then to have to let them go is hard. And as we grow older, the more people break our hearts, the worse it can feel each time.

When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look
so long and so regretfully upon the closed door,
that we do not see the ones which open for us.
~Alexander Graham Bel

If you feel like your heart has broken, you're not alone. Just about everyone experiences the type of grief we call heartbreak at one time or another - and some people seem to have their hearts broken many times throughout their lives. Just think about all the songs you've heard on the radio about broken hearts! Of course, it's not really your heart but your feelings that are hurt.

Music has a tremendous healing effect.
History has proven this with virtually every race and culture.

 
Poems and love songs express it all .

When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
Kahlil Gibran

Share your feelings. Sharing your feelings with someone you trust may help you to feel better. That could mean simply talking with a friend or family member. For some, letting the tears flow seems to help them heal faster. For others, simply hanging out together and doing things you normally enjoy, like seeing a movie or going to a concert, can be comforting. Somehow just being with someone who cares about you can make things feel a little better.

It's okay to feel bad. Take some time to feel bad. Take a walk by yourself, or listen to some sad music. There is value to every feeling, as every feeling teaches us something new about ourselves. Just as we savour being happy, we can savour being sad, knowing that the feeling won't stay with us forever. As the sun can't shine everyday, it can't rain everyday either.

I lay there at night, trying to fall asleep
But each time I close my eyes
Memories of you flash through my mind
But then I open my eyes and welcome myself back to reality
Because I know now, you and I weren't ever really meant to be.

When a loving relationship ends in divorce or separation, it is experienced in the same way, with the same
degree of grief, as a death. In many ways it may be more devastating, as there is no closure. No matter how
final it may appear, there is always that faint hope that they may come back. There is a possibility that
something may change; because where there is life, there is hope.

This is for the broken hearted. I know how you feel. Empty, betrayed, and no happiness whatsoever. You don't want to laugh, because you know it's not going to help, but you don't want to cry, because it will just make you feel worse. You feel like your heart is falling apart, but not only that, but you know soon your life is going to feel like it's falling apart too. You don't think it will ever end, and no matter what this person has done to you, it feels impossible to stop loving them. And everyone wonders why if they have hurt you so much, then why do you still love them. That's the confusing part, you don't know why, you just do, and the people who hurt you the most, and normally the ones you love the most. And then, after a few weeks, you finally feel a sense of relief, like you're getting happy again, but you know inside that you're just going into denial. And after a few more weeks, you're back to where you were an empty soul and teary eyes. You thought you got over them, but really, you just stopped showing it. And you can't help but to show it again. It leaves deep scars on your heart that are there forever. And no one understands how you feel, and how deep you are hurt, no matter who they are, because it hasn't happened to them And even if it has, every broken heart is different.

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They don't know the true pain you feel and carry each and everyday now, so you learn that basically you are alone with all this. And the feeling starts to overwhelm you, and suddenly you just break down, right there, because you know you've had enough, the tears just instantly start flowing, and you're to the point where you don't care who see's. Because you've spent so many nights lying awake in bed, and so many days being haunted by the scars and fear of rejection. And in the midst of all these tears, you know that its not helping any, and it's not going to bring them back, if you ever even had them in the first place. After about a million tears have been cried, you finally pull yourself back together and keep going. Your throat starts to clench and your eyes burn with the tears you are trying to hold back. Everyone says, "It will be okay…” But you know it won't. And that’s the truth, it won’t. And you look back on all of the hurt you had from this, and you realize that people are horrible. You're still hurt, but you've learned to hide it so that everyone thinks you are okay. So now every time you see this person, you know you still love them, and you feel a slight tingle in your heart yearning for them to love you, screaming out, but for some reason they don't hear it. And then you sit back and wonder how one person could have caused all of this... Unknown

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional
. ~M. Kathleen Casey

When we have been deeply connected to another person we feel intrinsically woven into them. We try to express this sense with statements like, “He was a part of me” or “He completed me”. In death or divorce, it is common to feel like you have lost a part of yourself.

Love and death are the two life experiences which really compel us to look at life and the nature of reality. The loss of love, such as a divorce, the end of a relationship or even an unrequited love can be as devastating as losing
someone through death. We try to be rational and look for answers from an intellectual viewpoint, but we rarely, if ever, find satisfaction or resolution. At best, we may decide that, “It’s just the way things go, get over it and move
on”. Through some force of mental discipline, we suck it down and convince ourselves that we have accepted and recovered from our loss.

The symptoms of a "broken heart" can manifest themselves through psychological pain but for many the effect is physical. Although the experience is regarded commonly as indescribable, the following is a list of common symptoms that occur:

A perceived tightness of the chest, similar to an anxiety attack
Stomach ache and/or loss of appetite
Partial or complete insomnia
Short/Long term paralysis
Nostalgia
Apathy (loss of interest)
Feelings of loneliness
Feelings of hopelessness
Loss of self-respect and/or self-esteem
Medical or psychological illness
Suicidal thoughts (in extreme cases)
Nausea
Denial
Fatigue.

Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak;
sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go.
~Author Unknown

As you grow up, you will learn that even the one person that wasn’t supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it’s harder every time. You’ll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You’ll fight with your best friend. You’ll blame a new love for things an old one did. You’ll cry because time is passing too fast, and you’ll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you’ve never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you’ll never get back. Don’t be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

Relationships are like glass.
Sometimes it's better to leave them broken
than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
~Author Unknown

There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept,
things we don't want to know but have to learn,
and people we can't live without but have to let go.
~Author Unknown

Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point - that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative - self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them. ~Jennifer James

Raga to Love

I thought when love for you died, I should die.
It's dead. Alone, most strangely, I live on.
~Rupert Brooke

Ask me why I keep on loving you when it's clear that you don't feel the same way for me... the problem is that as much as I can't force you to love me, I can't force myself to stop loving you. ~Author Unknown

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~Kahlil Gibran

You never know what you have until you lose it, and once you lose it, you can never get it back.

Most girls blush at dirty scenes in a movie, I laugh, because I know that I can do it better.

I cried today... not because I miss you... or even wanted you... but because I realized I'm gonna be all right without you.

Sad isn't it? How no matter what you do or say to me... when you come running back... when you need me again... I'll be here... right here waiting for you, I'll take you back... no questions asked. Sad isn't it?

A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.

The road to recovery from a "broken heart" starts with grieving. Allow yourself to grieve for the loss of the loved one. Once resignation has been achieved then mediate upon the future of going forward without the loved one in your life. Once you have decided to move on with your life remain open to all things.

If you remain open to all things and allow yourself to explore the opportunities that present themselves you may have an opportunity to share your love once again. Allow yourself to love again and accept the love given to you. It is the salve that heals any broken heart.

Last of all, I want to share with you a short phrase that has always helped me in my times of grief, and that is 'time eases pain.' As time goes on we know 'today' will slip from us and move further and further away into the 'past.' And as each day passes by, the hurt will go away, little by little, until we don't even remember the pain at all.

“He who learns must suffer. And even in our sleep pain that cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart, and in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God.”
~Aeschylus, Agamemnon

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